Author: Diana
Are we still there when young people need us?
“Every child needs someone to notice them. Without that, they can become invisible, even to themselves.”
While watching the film „Fränk”, I had a strong feeling that quite a few young people are left alone precisely when they need support the most. Adults are often physically present, but their attention, care and understanding are lacking. This makes me think: do we, adults, really notice what is going on in the souls of young people? And if we do, do we act?
The needs of young people and the role of adults
The film "Fränk" painfully highlights how lonely and lost young people can be.
The main character, Paul, who comes from a broken family, tries to survive and find himself in a new city.
to prove it, but he keeps getting caught up in a whirlwind of wrong decisions. He does get in his way
adults, but few of them see his real needs.
Adults who should have been supportive are often absent or divert their attention.
attention elsewhere. Some adults in the film rather exacerbated the problems of young people: whether
with indifference or harsh judgments that further isolated the young person. For example, moments when adults looked away when young people drank alcohol or fought, left young people alone with their worries.
Fränk, although he was different and disabled, was able to do something that many others could not: he was truly present. He listened, supported, and made Paul feel valued. It is this simple presence, listening, and unconditional support that young people need more than ever.
What could adults do differently?
The most important thing is to notice, ask and listen. Not only when the problems are already visible, but much earlier, in the small everyday moments. Young people do not always need big words or solutions. Sometimes it is enough for someone to say: „I am here. I listen to you.”
Adults need to be role models, not judges. If we criticize young people's choices without understanding their reasons, we simply put them on the defensive. But if we listen and try to understand, we give them the opportunity to open up and receive support.
It is also worth remembering that it is the adult's responsibility to be a stable and reliable support, even if the young person initially rejects the support.
Summary: Noticing is a choice
The film "Fränk" reminds us that young people need adults who are truly present:
with heart and mind. We can't always solve problems for young people, but we can make them feel that they are not alone.
Noticing, listening, and supporting doesn’t require special skills: it requires choice. Choice
to look at the young person and ask yourself: „Am I there for him?”
If every adult would think about this question for even a moment, the world would be a much safer place for young people.